Signs you are in a toxic relationship

By Faith Zvorufura

It’s sad that sometimes relationships do not turn out the way we really would want them to. Some are very bad for us but we still stick around.

I am going to write this only from a woman’s perspective. Women have this high tolerance and will tolerate a guy and relationship that is toxic to them.

I do not know why people are afraid of being single, being alone. They prefer staying in these bad relationships.

It’s hard to see what’s best for yourself when you’re invested in a relationship, It’s not always easy to remember who you are and what you want.

You can start to lose yourself and forget to make yourself and your happiness a priority.

There is a lot of sh*t we put up with because the pain certain relationships bring us is less intimidating than the pain of letting go of the person you love.

There’s nothing wrong with admitting a relationship has run its course.

Even if you can’t conceptualize your life without that person, with time and distance, you’ll be able to see the relationship for what it was: toxic as hell.

Right now to the signs:

1 Constantly Crying, if he is making you cry almost all the time, girl that relationship is toxic.

2 If you constantly have to explain yourself, Its toxic.

3 If he gets mad at you for noticing inconsistencies in the relationship its toxic. My ex boyfriend thought I was psycho for noticing these and pointing them out.

4 Passive Aggression, The whole “I hate it when you do that, but I’m just gonna keep it to myself and throw you shady little side glances” thing is unnecessary.

5 Arguing without communicating, you just lash at each other for no apparent reason. It’s natural to get upset and argue, but if there’s no exchange of communication and neither party conveys why he or she feels how he or she does, nothing will be solved.

6 Negative energy, Feeling uncomfortable or tense around someone is just your body reacting to the negative energy surrounding the two of you.

7 Feeling like there’s no point, If you feel like your relationship isn’t going anywhere, why waste the time? That’s time you’ll look back on with regret, but that you’ll never be able to relive.

8 You only think about making him happy, Once you hit your 20s, relationships are a trial run for marriage. You should be able to see potential in spending the rest of your life with your significant other because if not, what’s the point?

9 You are just not happy anymore, What it really comes down to is happiness. You don’t have to justify why you aren’t happy anymore.

10 He constantly puts you down,Relationships are a chance for enormous personal growth. Sometimes our less-than-stellar qualities are brought to the surface and they need to be dealt with. However, there is a huge difference between a partner who can point out your flaws in a loving way, a way that encourages you to grow, and a partner who does it from a place of contempt.

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